A Safe Space for Malia

There’s nothing I don’t like about being here. There’s always good energy, good vibes – it’s a safe space I can come to if I need to.

Malia* has been part of the School of Hard Knocks (SOHK) programme for over two years. Now in Year 9, she speaks with pride and a growing sense of self-belief about how far she’s come – and how different her relationship with school looks today. 

Malia’s parents are not together and live separately in two of Wales’s most disadvantaged areas. She splits time between their homes with most time with a parent living closer to her school. She’s the youngest girl in a big family and says she has good relationships with all her siblings. Despite the challenges around her, Malia describes her home life as positive and supportive. 

When she first joined SOHK in Year 7, things were tougher. “My behaviour wasn’t the best,” she admits. Malia didn’t like school, struggled with bullying, and often felt angry and misunderstood. This led to regular exclusions – sometimes as often as once every two weeks – both internally and externally. She found it hard to connect with teachers and didn’t see the point of school, describing herself as angry, disengaged, and lacking respect for staff and peers alike. 

SOHK was a turning point

SOHK became a turning point. Over time through regular sessions, mentoring, and support, Malia was able to find better ways to manage her anger and frustration, build healthier relationships, and begin seeing her own potential. “I now think before I speak more – with everyone, not just teachers,” she says with a smile. 

Her teachers now comment on her calmer, more respectful behaviour, and frequent exclusions have become a thing of the past. She now also has a much more positive opinion on school and enjoys spending time with her friends. 

She credits a lot of this to the rugby element of SOHK, which she loves. “I can’t sit still in lessons, but rugby keeps me moving,” she explains. She’s aiming to play a full game against another school team this year – and is determined to sharpen her skills even more. 

Malia’s bond with the SOHK team is one of the most powerful parts of her story. She describes the sessions as a safe space – somewhere she can talk openly, be herself, and feel supported with anything life throws at her. “It’s just good vibes,” she says. “I always feel better after coming here.” 

Towards a brighter future

Looking ahead, Malia has big plans. She wants to become an architect and already knows which subjects she’ll be choosing for GCSEs, with college and university firmly in her sights. “I feel like I can do anything I put my mind to,” she says – and with her new mindset, growing confidence and continued support from SOHK, there’s no doubt she will. 

“Malia has come so far. She’s full of energy, has a brilliant sense of humour, and is incredibly driven. Watching her turn challenges into growth – and start dreaming big – has been one of the real joys of working with her.” - SOHK Delivery Team